One of the more complicated issues with dating someone new is the idea of birthdays and other special occasions – what do you do?
Some dating advice will tell you to pick up a gift for them, while other experts say that you should ignore the occasion altogether to prevent coming on too strongly. It’s confusing advice at best, so what can you do?
There is a middle ground to this hot debate. People like being celebrated. They like being acknowledged. When you take the time to show that you know about a special day for them, they will appreciate it – even if they don’t show it.
You don’t have to go all out to do this either. A nice card or a small gift is plenty. You may want to choose to take them out to eat (minus the embarrassing singing, of course) at a place of their choosing, or ask them to make the plans for the night so that they are getting a celebration of their own design.
Now, if you don’t realize that it’s their birthday until the day of your already scheduled date, you can also cover for that too. Just pick out a dessert at dinner without their knowledge or take them somewhere special after dinner to celebrate. Be creative.
As for the people who say that celebrating is too much and will ‘scare’ a person away on a first date – the key is not to go out and buy them something expensive or something that’s too personal, especially if you’re just getting to know them. You don’t want to make them feel pressured into staying in the relationship because they received something so expensive. Something small is fine and you’ll certainly be thanked for it.