If you continually talk down your ex partners and dates on social media, others with rightly wonder if they’re going to get the same treatment from you.
But with this ability to converse comes a little responsibility – after all, if you’re writing about your dates and publishing their photos and anyone can read about them, you might end up with unwanted attention. Not only that a long line of suitors that might run away before you even meet them.
If you’re going to discuss your online dates online, you need to know a few things:
- If you found your date online, they can find you – Don’t think that your social media page is as innocent or as private as you might think. Everyone Googles their dates these days.
- Use pseudonyms – Don’t use your real name or their real names if you’re going to vent about your online dates. While it might be tempting to name and shame this person out of rage, it might not be a sensible idea. Things can turn ugly very quickly and you might even find yourself subject to a lawsuit.
- Consider keeping your opinion to yourself – While the activity of online dating can be quite comical, often it’s better to stick to writing in a tangible journal instead of an online one. If you do write, keep it light hearted and general rather than posting specific information about people.
- Only discuss the ‘bad’ dates – When you limit your talks about the bad dates, you might actually teach your future dates how to behave around you. But saving the good dates will allow your potential long term relationships the opportunity to grow uninterrupted.
- If you continually talk down your ex partners and dates you’ve had, others with rightly wonder if they’re going to get the same treatment from you if the relationship doesn’t go the way you want. Gossiping online can paint you in a bad light as well, even if it’s justified to some degree.
Posting updates on your social media pages can be a great way to release stress during the online dating process, but it can also hurt you. When you think about writing, think about what you want a prospective date to read – because they will find you out. Eventually.