Body Language Says A Lot
Does what you do with you body really say something about how you feel?
Dating coaches say yes.
The way you and your partner move reveals how you’re feeling about your relationship at a deeper level. See Reading Body Language in Depth, for some general ideas about the subject.
To test this out, I went to my local pub last night to do some people-watching.
The first couple I noticed was a man and a woman sitting at the bar. Seated side-by-side, they gave the impression of being quite into each other. They weren’t rigid, but openly turned face-to-face. Many of their gestures crossed into the ‘personal space’ of the other…getting close, but never quite touching. Maybe they were on a date! They smiled and laughed. And you could just tell they wanted to be close to one another.
Another couple, seated at a table next to me, also appeared to be very much in sync. They did some ‘mirroring’….(psychological theories suggest ‘mirroring’ another’s body language strengthens relations with them)….but it didn’t seem like something they did on purpose.
She would lean in…..then he would lean in.
She would put her arm back…..then he would put his arm back.
He would touch his hair…..then she would play with her hair.
And on, and on.
Though they weren’t sitting as close to each other as the people at the bar (these two were across from each other), they intently looked one another in the eyes while speaking. They smiled and laughed in a relaxed manner. And their ease with each other made it seem as if they had been together for a long time.
Outside a few people walked by. But the only couple I saw didn’t look too happy. A man with a frown was walking just ahead of his female companion, who hurried to keep up with him – her head to the ground! While they may or may not have been a romantic couple, their body language (i.e. head down & frown) indicated that they were not terribly close to one another (as friends or anything else for that matter!) at that particular moment.
Checking out body language is a fun experiment anyone can try.
Next time you go out, look around you. See what kind of signals people actually give off.
A lot can be learned just by looking…
And this can certainly help in your own relationship!
Do you want to know…
Are they mad, but just not telling you???
…rather than ask them, watch them!
You might be surprised at just what their body is telling you.
Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes
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