Signs of an Affair Can Be Tricky
Cheating partners may not seem like a big deal unless you suspect you might have one.
I just finished reading 46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair and it got me thinking. Just how many people are sneaking off with someone else?
The internet leads to all kinds of numbers on cheating. Some surveys found over 50% of the people polled to be unfaithful (both men and women!). Think that’s worrying? Consider this: studies done worldwide show that about 2 of every 10 of us were born as the result of an affair!
You can even find websites dedicated to catching cheating partners. If you’re thinking of dating somebody, maybe you want to check if they are a serial cheater! One of these sites is Woman Savers, which is a forum for women to “dish the dirt” on cheating men and inform whole world about them (photos included).
If all of this is so, and we generally have a number of partners throughout our lives, doesn’t this mean that at some point we have a cheater on our hands? And if we have one, do we know it? Or do we turn a blind eye?
Reflecting on the people in my own life, I realize that a great many of them or their partners have cheated in one relationship or another. Some are serial cheaters, but many have only done it once. No one is really immune!
Knowing what to look for – beyond just the classic lipstick on the collar sign – will help you be more aware. So have a look through these 46 clues.
A word of caution with stuff like this…
You might panic thinking, ‘Number 3 sounds familiar. So do 6 & 10. And 14, 19, 25, & 40 too!’
But before you march off to declare your loved one an adulterer, wait a minute.
Relax!
Ask yourself… could there be another explanation? Sometimes there is. It’s tricky, but remember that doing something rash could end-up hurting your relationship for no reason. People generally don’t take well to being accused of cheating, especially when they’re not.
This doesn’t mean you should let your guard down.
Just pay attention.
A particularly good piece of advice from the list is to observe how your partners’ friends and coworkers behave towards you. You can even extend this to relatives too. There’s a good chance that if your partner has stopped confiding in you, then s/he is talking to someone else. And while your beloved may be good at lying to you, others may have trouble doing so. But again, this can be tricky…and you must use a great deal of tact. Otherwise you risk damaging your rapport with these people if they sense you don’t trust your partner and are just hunting-down info.
If you haven’t yet reached the point of suspicion, then take action!
You can do something to limit the chances your partner might wander.
Whether you’ve been together for ten weeks or ten years…don’t forget that relationships always need some revamping to stay fresh. No matter how tired or busy you feel, putting extra effort into your relationship now (before an affair starts) will save you heartache down the road.
Don’t let things fizzle out.
Put some time into revitalizing your bond today.
Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes
I will say cheating your partner is not okay but one have to learn
There are many people with many different ideals of what a relationship truly is and I am not about to force my beliefs on anyone else, but can speak only from experience and what bothers me most – women cheat just as much as men but we always get the worse end of things when a relationship goes bad.
Why is it that when my ex-wife cheated on me, she still got pretty much everything? I was lucky enough to keep my truck and tools and the clothes on my back. Not to be ranting or complaining, but she got the house and everything else. Fortunately, I am currently deployed in Iraq and am finally starting to get back out of the debt she created. With women like this in the world, of course men are going to stray and think they are being sly and getting away with the “perfect affair” but in reality it is more just a sense of insecurity and sense of not being needed that cause men to stray.
I do not agree with cheating and admit, yes, I cheated a long time go when I was just a freshman in college. Does this make me a bad person? It is more a level of maturity and finding someone that is compatible in this day and age. With the constant pressure of success beating us down we forget what is most important in life, . . . creating life and spending time with that very person in the creation of a family, a future, for us all.
US Army, CPT, 30
Cheating is definitely not a help in any way to a monogamous relationship. If one is not happy in a relationship, they simply need to get out of it. Cheating brings with it a whole set of attributes that are all negative and do nothing but tear down someone else and in a lot of cases entire families.
I don’t see how cheating can in anyway can help a marriage or relationship it will hurt it not help! I think the person that cheats on their spouse is a low life and they deserve to be alone for the rest of their life. If you know you can’t stay faithful don’t get married and ruin someone’s life who loves you unconditionally. Just put yourself in the other person’s view when you think about cheating and I can guarantee that you wouldn’t cheat. If they still would cheat then you obviously deserve better and they are selfish for cheating!
If you do decide to have an affair and you don’t want to get caught, the Internet is your best friend. While some might think cheating is wrong, it does help some marriages. Type “affair tips” in Google for cheating tips so you don’t get caught!
Now I am trying dating at millionairecupid.com. I think these tips would be helpful to me.