When Do You Talk Politics on a Date
Sure, the elections in the U.S. are over, but that doesn’t mean some people have turned off all political thought. In a world where liberal thinkers and conservative thinkers co-exist, there will most certainly come a time when you’re on a date with someone who is the complete opposite of you in terms of political opinion.
So, what happens then?
For some couples, they have successfully managed polar opposite political thoughts, enjoying the opportunity to be with someone who shows them the other side of the debate.
For others – if you’re not what they are, you might want to leave. NOW.
This is why it’s generally sage advice to avoid the political discussion until later in the relationship. You’re not avoiding the topic, but merely putting it on the backburner in order to focus on getting to know the person before knowing their ideals.
(And in truth, most people’s political colors will shine through, even if they aren’t mentioned.)
Of course, this does beg the question: do you dump someone just because they don’t agree with you? Seems a little silly when you put it that way, for certain, but just as with religion and babies, some ideals are deal breakers in relationships.
And if politics is one, you need to be upfront from the start. That way, you can both cast your ballots the way you want and you both find someone to love who believes in you as much as they believe in their opinions.
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Sounds to me like a lot of emotional baggage is tied up with your politics and his politics. Plenty of people are couple who don’t agree on politics (think of James Carville and Mary Matalin). The real issue is can you separate your love for him and your love of your political views from your dislike of his point of view. I am liberal, too, btw, so I fully understand where you are coming from. I would say don’t give up for now. But if you want out for other reasons as well, then definitely leave. It sounds to me like your politics is the background to personal issues you have with him as well.
I’m looking for some kind of perspective here, but it all seems rather shallow.
I’ve been dating a man for almost a year now — someone I knew had some rather cynical views on life, but I found it charming when I met him. I like a good snide remark, even if it’s directed at me, as long as the humor is good-natured. And we’re not going to solve all the problems of the world over the kitchen table.
But here’s the problem: My personal and political are linked. I help disadvantaged teenagers because I believe in fairness and the potential of all people. I belong to and support a union because I understand basic economics. I question authority and have been active on several issues on which “experts” have been wrong.
My boyfriend has not objected to my personal activities, which is awfully big on his part. Why can’t I be a big person, too?
Because, the economy is collapsing and this guy is still listening to the conservative radio ranters and saying it’s all because liberals tried to buy idiot poor people houses. Fairness? No, he thinks unfairness is good for the economy; the more the better because the rich give us jobs. In fact, people at the bottom don’t seem to have a right to exist. My disadvantaged teenagers seem to be a noble exception to his rule, or he just doesn’t see the connection. The wars? No problem. (He’s not fighting either of them, by the way.) It’s not just that I disagree with him; I wonder if there’s a brain in there.
If he wanted to debate fiscal and monetary policy, I wouldn’t be insulted in the least. I don’t expect him to start going to ACLU meetings. But is there a point where the personal meets the political? Didn’t we used to call that “values”?
This is sad, because I keep feeling guilty about looking for a way out when he has been nothing but generous and kind to me. Am I the problem here? Just a political know-it-all bitch? Too much of a hippie? Why does he even hang around?
By the way, he has a history of being with women like me. I knew his ex-girlfriend the feminist theorist artist slightly years ago, and have met his ex-wife the liberal yoga instructor. I have nothing against either one. He complains that they insulted his conservative family, and last summer I apparently did, too. Maybe we allow him to assuage guilt toward his family when he defends them against us. Maybe the Republican thing is a defense against intimacy.