When it comes to online dating, most of us are a little skittish. After all, we’re talking to someone we hardly know and hoping they like who we really are. Well, most of us, anyway.
For the rest of the daters out there, you might not be skittish because you’re projecting a completely different personality online than the real you – the one you wear during your online off-hours.
When we put ourselves out there in the search for love, it seems that we often just don’t think we are good enough – or that anyone will accept us for who we really are. Research shows that a staggering 90% of people admit to fakery on their dating and social media profiles.
Yes, you are faking it during your online dates, but it seems to work, so there’s no harm in it? Right?
Let’s sit down for a moment and think about why being yourself is the best way to approach dating:
- It’s easier
- It takes less energy
- You don’t have to constantly second guess your every word, action, and expression
- You know the other person is accepting you for who you are, not an idealized online persona.
- You don’t have to worry about shattering their feelings and trust in you when (or if) you meet in real life
When you are just ‘you,’ you get to show your date what they’re in for – like it or not. And would you really want to waste your time with someone who isn’t truly the person they seem to be? No, you’d call them a liar and something that was just trying to get something from you.
So, why are you doing it too?
Becoming more comfortable with yourself is not an overnight process, to be sure. But it is something which will help you hook up and match up with a person who likes you for who you are – on the date and down the road.