Have you ever encountered a situation where you spotted an attractive female but didn’t approach because you weren’t sure if she was into you? Thanks to the subconscious signals she sends out, it’s easy to tell what’s on her mind by studying her body language. Whether in a bar or at the office, use the female body language tips below to determine if a woman is interested in getting to know you better.
1. Her gaze is always on you
If she can’t seem to take her eyes off you, she probably finds you attractive. Observe her gaze. Do her eyes seem to linger when she looks at you? Does she position her body in such a way so that she can keep her eyes on you? As an experiment, try moving to a different area of the room and see if her eyes follow you. These are sure female body language indications that she is interested in you and that you should introduce yourself. Also, pay attention to whether or not she holds eye contact with you during conversation instead of looking around the room or at her friends.
2. She points her feet in your direction
Whether she’s sitting or standing, take a look at the direction of her feet. A woman who is attracted to you will point her lower body in your direction. It is effectively a signal that says ‘I would like to go in this direction’.
3. She does things to get you to notice her
If she takes an unnecessarily long route to get somewhere and happens to pass by you, this indicates that she wants you to notice her. For example, she might deliberately pass by you on the way to the restroom even though the restroom is nowhere near you. This is a very clear invite and signals that she wants your attention.
4. She preens herself
When a woman knows you’ve observed her she’ll make a quick effort to look her best for you. She may do this by straightening her skirt of smoothing her hair. These female body language actions are often subconscious, though, so she may not even realize that she’s doing it.
5. She touches her hair
Most women are very particular about their hairstyle because it is one important way women show off their beauty. The way a woman touches or flicks her hair can be a sign that she is interested. If you see her tossing her hair back seductively or twirling and fondling her hair while looking in your direction, she is flirting with you for sure.
6. She laughs at your jokes
Once you approach her, tell her a funny story and pay attention to her reaction. If she openly laughs then she is probably into you. If she is interested in you, she will also listen intently as you speak and it will be apparent through her body language (head tilted, eyes focused, etc.).
7. She strokes herself or an object
Signs of interest or attraction also include enactment of sexually stimulating activities. For example, a woman might caress her arms, leg or face if she feels an attraction for you. This can mean ‘I would like to stroke you like this’ or ‘I would like you to stroke me like this’. Objects held may be also used in enactment displays which include stroking a wine glass, cigarette or any other object in close proximity.
8. She mirrors you
When a woman finds you attractive, you may be able to detect signs of mirroring which involves her mimicking your body language. This is an unconscious body language behavior and a definite indication that she is interested. Some examples of mirroring are taking a drink together or leaning back against the chair at the same time. She may also rest an elbow on the table at the same time as you or try to match the speed and tone of your voice. Pay close attention to see if she mimics your behavior in any way for signs of sexual attraction.
9. She moves in closer
If she feels attracted to you, she’ll sit or stand closer to you. Another great sign that a woman is flirting with you is that she moves in closer and closer and you continue to converse with her. She does this to show a desire to create more intimacy while between the two of you. Another trick she might use is to lower her voice so that you have to move in closer to her to hear what she’s saying. When you see her doing this, you’re receiving a definite sign of attraction and interest.
10. She touches you often
If a woman touches you during conversation it is another indication of her interest in you. This can be a simple touch on the hand or knee. Generally, the more intimate the touch and the longer it lasts the more she is interested.
Most body language experts like to apply the “Rule of Four” when determining if a woman is signaling attraction, so be alert for at least four of the above such indications. If she displays five or more signs of interest, you have definitely captured her attention and can be confident that she finds you attractive. Keep in mind, however, that even if some of the above body language signals are present, she could just be interested in keeping you as a friend so always be polite and respect her space.
Remember these 10 signs that she is attracted to you the next time you encounter a woman you find attractive, and you‘ll become an expert at decoding female body language in no time!
By Salena Quinn