While it seems like there are new television shows every season that show neurotic singles looking for love, that’s fiction, right? In truth, maybe art is more like life than we think it is. Maybe we really are getting a bit over obsessed with dating, with meeting new people, and with finding that one perfect love. After all, if we’re so great and wonderful and perfect for dating (as so many experts tell us), why haven’t we found someone yet?
Neurotic seems to be an understatement sometimes.
But does that mean that we need to talk to a therapist about our dating woes? Maybe, but maybe not.
Going to a therapist can be a great way to begin to learn how to build your confidence in all areas of your life – even outside of dating. This person can talk you through past dates to figure out what you could have done differently in order to make things go better the next time around.
On the other hand, experience can also be a good teacher. The more you head out onto dates, the more you will learn about dating – that is, what to do and what to avoid at all costs.
Here are some signs that you might need professional guidance in your dating troubles:
- You haven’t had a good date. In years.
- All of your relationships end in the other person breaking up with you.
- Your friends have tried to point out things you could do differently.
- You don’t feel confident about your ability to ask someone out.
- You get so nervous that you have troubles being yourself on a date.
Dating is hard, but therapy can be harder. Actually with this in mind, maybe dating isn’t so difficult after all – at least you don’t have to pay someone to tell you how to do it. Of course, it may be the way to finally win the dating game.
And that’s a good investment.