Dump or be dumped
There’s usually some pretty clear signs that all is not well in a relationship. However we are often too close and too involved to notice these signs ourselves. Often it takes our friends or family to point them out to us. Being in a relationship for a long period of time can seriously cloud your judgement. Knowing when to give up on a relationship is not as easy at it seems. Sometimes you can find yourself in a bad relationship, a one-sided relationship, or even a destructive relationship without even realising it. This happens simply because you’ve lived with your partner for so long and the relationship may have changed slowly over time, getting progressively worse.
Things that may have been little annoyances at the start may turn into much more serious issues later on. These can appear in many different guises, from partners who are abusive, partners who belittle you in public, who don’t care or show you respect, to those who are jealous, or who are possessive of your time.
So what keeps someone in such a relationship? The most common reasons they don’t just split are:
- Fear of change
- Fear of being alone
- Denial of the situation
- Guilt, especially when kids are involved
- A belief that the partner will change or go back to how they once were
- Putting up with them, because ‘when they are nice they are very nice’
- Being attracted to a ‘dominant’ personality
Unfortunately, getting into these types of relationships in the first place can be a repetitive pattern for some people. How ever much you love someone, it is not a reason for staying in a bad relationship. Don’t waste your life. Get out while you still have time and regain your self-respect. Getting out of a bad relationship is difficult to start with, but it is well worth the heartache and turmoil. Once out, the sunlight that was missing from your life will return, and a few months down the line, you’ll be amazed with yourself as to why you lived in such a situation for so long.
http://blog.datingwise.com/73/dump-or-be-dumped/RejectionAbuse,Bad,Dump,Jealous,Love,Possessive,Rejection,RelationshipThere's usually some pretty clear signs that all is not well in a relationship. However we are often too close and too involved to notice these signs ourselves. Often it takes our friends or family to point them out to us. Being in a relationship for a long period...VeronikaVeronika Cardesinfo@acornbow.comUserDating and Relationship Advice