There’s nothing like a first date to make you neurotic.

Not only are you worried about what you’re going to wear, but you’re also trying to figure out what you want to talk about with your date. You don’t want to look stupid, but you also don’t want to look shallow or arrogant about your life.

Breathe.

First things first, if you’re already a shy person, you’re nervous enough about talking, so why make it any worse with trying to put all of the pressure on yourself to keep the conversation rolling. Instead, start asking your date about their life and what they think of things. Ask about anything so long as you ask open ended questions.

(That means that the questions require more than a yes or a no)

Once you get your date talking about something, ask them to go into more detail, ask about how it made them feel, etc.

Before you know it, you’ll have a date that thinks that you’re the best listener in the world as well as someone who’s genuinely interested in them. Because you are.

It’s really not what you’re talking about with your date, but rather what they’re telling you about themselves.

You can always talk more on the SECOND date.

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