What to Do When Your Partner Cheats
Cheating is a sad reality of life and one that we ultimately can’t control. Short of keeping tabs on your significant other twenty-four hours a day, there is no absolutely sure way to control whether they cheat on you.
The only tools that can keep a relationship strong are love and trust, and these are the qualities that may put you at ease with regard to your partner’s faithfulness. Despite these, however, cheating can still occur.
If your partner admits that he or she is cheating, what should you do? The answer to that question is different for everybody.
There are a few important points, however, that we should all keep in mind when considering the issue of infidelity.
1) Don’t be overly suspicious until you have solid proof
Some people are constantly suspicious about the doings of their mate. If this describes you pretty well, you should know that you run the risk of actually making things worse. Giving an air of suspicion and mistrust to your relationship may end up pushing your partner away, in which case all of your efforts to keep your relationship intact will have instead caused it to fall apart.
Unfounded jealousy can kill a relationship as quickly as actual infidelity can, and it’s easy to imagine a situation in which your partner might be cheating, especially if you’re the kind of person who always assumes that the worst possible outcome is true. However…
2) If you find definite proof of infidelity, take the issue on directly
The question of what you should do when faced with an unfaithful partner has no right answer. Different couples cope with this all too common problem in different ways.
However, there are several wrong answers. Extreme anger is a natural response to this type of situation, but it is better to control your emotions, if possible, and approach the problem with a clear head.
Talk directly with your partner about the issue, and try to determine why the infidelity occurred. Directness and honesty are always the best policies when dealing with relationship problems, no matter what they involve. Just try to avoid the temptation of allowing your emotions to take over.
3) Think before you make any final decisions about your future
It’s all too easy for us to make emotional decisions when confronted with something as serious as the infidelity of a trusted and beloved partner. Many couples end up violently breaking apart as a result.
While a break-up might really be the best way to end things, however, that is not a decision you should make rashly. Think about what you stand to gain from ending your relationship with your partner. If you happen to be married or have children together, the situation is more complicated. Many couples stay together out of a sense of responsibility towards their children or their families.
If you don’t have any serious outside commitments to maintain, though, the best course of action might be to break up. Cheating is most often a result of a lack of satisfaction in a relationship. One half of the couple feels that they are not being fulfilled by their partner, and so they seek out someone else’s affections.
Someone who cheats on his or her partner once for this reason is likely to continue doing it unless the causes of the infidelity are directly addressed and dealt with. If you do decide to stay with your partner, do not expect a change in his or her behavior as long as these underlying problems remain in your relationship.
Every case is different, however. Just remember to come to a reasoned and well thought-out decision instead of acting purely on impulse.
4. If you do decide to break it off, don’t look back
After breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you might start to miss them and wish you were back together. In your mind, you might play up the good qualities that they had and play down the bad ones. It is even possible for something as serious as infidelity to be partly washed away in your mind, given enough time. If you find yourself thinking about returning to an unfaithful ex, however, stop yourself. It’s generally a bad idea for exes to get back together, no matter what the reason for the break-up was. It is an especially bad idea if that reason was infidelity.
The best thing to do after a break-up is to move on with your own life. If you feel lonely, find someone new, and preferably someone with a different personality from that of your ex. Although it can be difficult to tell who will and who will not cheat, there is a great chance that if you hit it off with someone who fulfils your needs, and whose needs you fulfil in turn, you will have a happy and prosperous relationship.
Of course the best thing is to avoid the affair happening in the first place.
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